Too Many Words

My daughter dated a guy for a while whose mother used too many words (translation=she talked a lot.) And by a lot I mean we thought she was born with gills, because she never took a breath. Do you know someone who goes on and on and on, and you wait for them to take a breath so you can get a couple of words in before they launch again? She didn’t seem to take that breath. To this day I don’t know how she did it.

If you have ever experienced this from the listening end, remember it when you are upset with your child for something and you are going on and on. Are their eyes glazing over? Can you see them shut down? Are they waiting for you to take a breath so they can get in a word or two? Are they checking you for gills? If so, you are using too many words.

What I found over the years of trial and error parenting, was that less was more when talking to children (and sometimes spouses). If I calmly stated my case, “Sticking your finger in the cake frosting was wrong because it was for your sister’s birthday.”; the consequence, “Now you won’t get a piece of it until after everyone else is finished.”; and went on about my business, it all went much better. Further explanation was unnecessary.

Using too many words gives children more to process than they can handle. It is counterproductive and a monumental waste of time. Things do not need to be explained from multiple directions to make a point unless you can see that the explanation is not being understood.

In my faith journey, one of the things I asked for was the wisdom to know when to speak and when to be quiet. The being quiet part was the most difficult. Being a teacher at heart, I tended to over explain. I would tell you more about it, but that would be using too many words…

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