There was a time when I thought I had to wait for teachable moments and then pounce on them. Yes, I lectured children when they did wrong and complimented them when they did right. I had conversations that were in-depth and meaningful…at least I thought so. What surprised me was that sometimes the conversation was less meaningful to the student I was talking with and more meaningful to the student that was in the background in the room. As I grew as an educator and later as a parent, I discovered that we are teaching our children at all moments when we are together.
Family dinner? What do you talk about? What do you laugh at? What do you debate? How do you debate? Are you respectful to each other? You are teaching all the time.
Out shopping? What do you do when the cashier gives you too much change? How do you treat the people who wait on you? How to you treat other customers? Do you open doors for others? Do you say please and thank you? You are the most important teacher in your child’s life.
Chaos and crisis? Do you freak out, or remain calm? Do you deny the problem or deal with it? Do you blame others or take responsibility? Your children are watching and learning from you.
Are you usually in a hurry? No time for your kids? Busy on the phone or computer a lot? Crabby because you are stressed and not getting enough sleep? What are you teaching your children about how life should be lived?
You are always teaching your children something…what do you want it to be? If you weren’t raised in the perfect home in the perfect family, you may need to break some old chains of bad behavior. All moments are teachable moments even when we are teaching ourselves how to be better teachers.
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