Teachable Moments

There was a time when I thought I had to wait for teachable moments and then pounce on them. Yes, I lectured children when they did wrong and complimented them when they did right. I had conversations that were in-depth and meaningful…at least I thought so. What surprised me was that sometimes the conversation was

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Perception is Reality

Perception is reality to the person perceiving it. Each of us views the world in a different way and from a different perspective. Two people can look at the same thing and see it entirely differently. Any police officer that has taken a statement from more than one witness will tell you that. Each is

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The Wedding

Today, Friday September 13, 2013 my youngest daughter is getting married. (Yes, Friday the thirteenth.) I knew when my girls were little that this day was coming. I didn’t know which one would be first, or when the day would be here. But I knew it was coming. Two and a half years ago, she

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The Apology

My grandparents on my mother’s side were both redheads. My mother was a redhead. Before I started turning white (now strawberry), I too was a redhead. Being from a long line of redheads, I thought it was in my DNA to have a fiery temper. It was common knowledge. We all had that temper and

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Too Many Words

My daughter dated a guy for a while whose mother used too many words (translation=she talked a lot.) And by a lot I mean we thought she was born with gills, because she never took a breath. Do you know someone who goes on and on and on, and you wait for them to take

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Nurturing Discipline

Discipline can be tricky. How many times did I yell or slam doors to make my point? I don’t know, but my kids could probably tell you. I never felt good about it afterward and usually wound up apologizing for my bad behavior. Additionally, it wasn’t very effective. As I grew better at parenting, I

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Mean Girls-True Confessions

Growing up, I was the only kid in my school to have parents that were divorced. As charming a child as I was (cough, cough), that fact carried a certain social stigma. As all seventh grade girls (it was so long ago that we didn’t have jr. hi.), I wanted desperately to fit in and

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Mean Girls 1

Below is an article by Maggie Lamond Simone about Mean Girls. Some of the scars from “mean girls” remain with many of us today. It was done to me and I remember one incident in particular when I did it to another girl. But that is a story for next time. “I remember watching my

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Doing Things On Your Own

As I write this, I am sporting a huge black eye (also blue, purple, magenta, and maroon) because I have an independent streak and think I can do things on my own. We recently bought a pontoon boat. It has what is called a bimini top which is a fancy word for a shade that

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Boundaries-Let the Tantrums Begin!

I am in the north-woods of Wisconsin right now, almost to the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. It is very different from where I live most of the time, around Chicago. The pace is slower, people are more friendly, and the state isn’t broke like Illinois. I have watched the political developments up here. The over-simplified

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